Does the word "Move On" really exist?

A person is honed and shaped by its experience. The more hurdles they overcome the stronger they will be. It may be through happiness and aches, pains and tears that resulted into the character that we have now.

On the recent years, I am always being asked by my girlfriends before if I really have moved on from my gf before them. I am not boasting on this side saying I had many, but let’s dig in to the word “moved on”.

When a person says “I have moved on”, it literally means that his/her love to her/his x had passed away and is ready to face the new reality (new fate of love). You (the one who reads this), have you really moved on? Is that word appropriate or not?

Other people tend to think nowadays that when we say move on  it means you have no longer  love to him/her, which is not right. The truth is a person don’t really move on like they say. Love is still there whether you accept it or not. The affection between  these two persons are still there even if they don’t voice it out.

Phone Call/Message, Viber ,Facebook, Twitter, are just few for means of communication. Actually, they don’t actually need this. After a month, no! even years of having no communication, an invisible bond of affection still exists. Don’t want to believe me? Haven’t you tried to entangle these questions in your mind: “How’s she/he now?”, “How I wish I can turn back time”, “I just hope he/she’s happy who’s with him/her”. Those questions usually don’t come up in your mouth, but tangles in your mind. And sometimes, it even bothers you and the worst, it might affect you current relationship.

Another proof that move on doesn’t exist is: when you see your x again, your heart beats faster like the time you saw him/her for the first time. Right? What I’m trying to say is your LOVE for a person never decreases nor fades, it’s just when you see another person that you are starting to like, your love for that person is more than before or the new is covering the mistakes of old. I’m not saying covering-down those holes (panakip butas) but it topples the old.

I know not all of you agree about this, of course, we had different experiences. But lover-to-friend for me, is not actually the real point neither the being-friend itself. We just need to put in our heart and mind that brains come first before the heart, decision-making is still needed not just in business,education,economy, livelihood, but also in what we call love.